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I'm afraid to let you in again...

I’m afraid to let you in again.

When I did, you hurt me so badly, I don’t think I can ever trust you again. I don’t think I can ever put myself out there like I did: it would be too dangerous, too scary. So I prefer to stay quiet, not to ask for what I need from you because if I did, who knows, I might get hurt again. And anything is better than suffering the pain of that.

So I don’t let myself show too much of what I need from you these days. I might be tentative, say it in a low voice, even a whisper (can you come home early tonight?), which you will not be able to hear of course because it’s just a whisper…

There you go: you see, I told you that I wanted closeness but you didn’t hear me, so I was right…this relationship will never work, better stay by myself, better keep quiet…

What do you do to protect yourself from hurting? How has that worked out for you?

How easy or difficult is it for you to let your partner know how you feel and what you need?

Edith and William's dance...

I don't know when it all started...