Lighthousecoaching is a blog on romantic relationships. Posts explore relationships through articles, but also quotes, poems, photos by influential artists, philosophers, researchers, thinkers and writers.

It's not about the dishes...

People sometimes wonder how couples can get so wound up by seemingly mundane, day to day issues, such as household tasks and daily logistical matters.

That’s because it’s never really only about the dishes, or who is dropping the kids today at school.

When couples fight, it is indeed very often less about the content of what they are fighting about than it is about the meaning they attach to each other’s actions: "Do you see me? Do I matter to you? Am I important to you?” are all questions that can - if left unanswered over time - disrupt the basic sense of trust we have in our significant other.

Do you feel supported by your partner? Do you feel like they have your back? Or do you feel you come at the end of their list?

When it's been too long...