“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe... dark... motionless... airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”
Couples
Do you feel like there is a wall between you?
Are you caught up in repetitive arguments that you can't seem to solve?
Do you feel lonely or shut out in your relationship?
Is there or has there been an affair?
Do you feel as if you are leading separate lives
Are you burnt out trying to reach out to your partner or having to constantly avoiding conflict?
Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells ?
My approach is based on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
Stuck in a negative pattern?
What is Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy?
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a unique and highly effective form of therapy that helps people understand and improve their emotional connection with themselves and others. Developed in the 1980s, EFT is based on the principle that our emotions are central to our experiences and relationships. It suggests that we are naturally designed to have a secure sense of who we are and a sense of self we can trust and rely on. This solid base allows for strong, supportive bonds with others, and when these bonds are secure, we tend to be happier and healthier.
What makes EFT stand out is its focus on emotions and how we manage and use them. This approach helps people understand their feelings and the feelings of those around them, leading to healthier and more fulfilling relationships. It’s not just about finding quick fixes; it’s about getting to the heart of the matter and creating lasting change.
EFT isn’t just a theory; its effectiveness is backed by extensive clinical research. It’s considered a gold standard in this field.
EFT is today the gold standard of treatment for couples in distress.
EFCT is used successfully with many different kinds of couples. EFT has been validated by over 30 years of empirical, peer-reviewed outcome research and has been applied to many different kinds of problems and populations.
For more on EFT, visit ICEEFT.